Mother’s Day is fast approaching and have you met her folks yet? Read on for tips on meeting her parents for the first time.
Who remembers this movie? Kinda how some guys feel when they meet the future-in-laws
Every parent wants the best for their kid, and that includes relationships. If you’re dating their daughter, then that means they’re going to judge the living $#^@ out of you because they want their little princess to be well taken care of. Are you that man who lives up to their standards?
AP WE TV Poll released an article a few months back stating 60% of girls consider their parents’ opinion when getting serious with a guy. The 16% of women interviewed, have dumped guys based on their mother’s reaction to the guy their dating. Amped Asia is here to help to make sure you don’t fall into that statistic.
When a parent sees their daughter dating someone, they always think about how that guy might become their future son-in-law. If that scares them, then his chances are going to be next to zero to get approval. If you want to win their blessing, you’re going to have to be like a son they never had.
Some parents value prestige over personality. Others value work ethics and family. It’s your job to investigate and know how best approach them the very first time (or any time for that matter). Ask your girlfriend what kind of people are her parents? What does the mom enjoy doing? What does the dad like reading? What issues will they have with you?
Think before you speak, or things might go wrong….wayyyy wrong
These efforts will help you determine what kind of gift to give them on your first encounter. Yes, I said gift. Especially if her parents are Asian, a gift is a sign of respect, thanks and humbleness. Just like how you give gifts at birthdays, housewarmings, or even a recent promotion. The first meeting is a very important event in traditional cultures. So knowing what her folks like will help determine what gift to get the parents.
Here are several ideas for gifts:
Bouquet of flowers – The most basic and standard gift. Give the flowers to the mother and the father will approve too since you are respecting his wife.
Box of Fruit – If your girlfriend’s parents are more of the practical type, then a box of fruits like Asian Pears is the perfect gift.
Nice Red Wine – A more classy gift and should be given to parents who drink. It’s also a nice gift for when you eat dinner at her folks place.
Assorted Sweets – Slices of cakes, pieces of chocolate, or even those Taiwanese pineapple cakes are all great gifts. But these sugary treats are usually souvenirs given when coming back from traveling.
Melon halves yes, porn star……maybe not.
When you actually first meet them, first impressions are KEY. Make sure to dress appropriately. This is a no brainier, but I’ve heard of guys meeting folks wearing PJs and not showering. Be ready to compliment something their parents like. From her mother’s garden to her father’s trophy collection, always find something to admire. This helps break ice and create a comfortable platform for her parents to relate to you.
Be respectful and confident. You are about to enter someone’s kingdom and admit you are courting their princess. There’s no coming back once a parent has labeled you disrespectful or weak. Just like how you were confident and respectful to win over the daughter, use that same charm to win over her parents….though it’s about 10 times harder. But you got this!
Now, granted some parents are extremely closed minded, especially when it comes to their daughter. They may not want their daughter to date someone like you. You might not have the perfect job, share the same religion, or be of the same race. The only thing you can do is make the effort to have them like you regardless of what you aren’t. But if her folks won’t approve of you no matter what, then you and your girlfriend are going to have to sit down and have a conversation about the future.
Meeting your girlfriend’s parents for the first time is a daunting event. But when done right, it can blossom into something that will lead to endless approval and questions of “when are you going to propose to my daughter?”
Having the parents approval will help smooth out a lot of potential wrinkles within a relationship. It shouldn’t be stressful to meet her folks for the first time, but we live in reality and after reading this article you should know better about what to expect. So this weekend, make sure to prepare something nice and be the son that her folks give the green-light to.
Written by Van Azn