This article was originally published in the October 2014 issue of Amped Asia magazine.
*Please keep an open mind while reading
As Tila Tequila demonstrated in her first sex tape: threesomes are fun.
Technically, anything with lots of girls are fun, so why are people so against trying a threesome? I was blessed with the opportunity once. (If you must know, it was with a female friend, my boyfriend and myself.) I found it to be a very enlightening evening and would totally try it again. Life is too short not to try everything once!
From a Biological Perspective:
Humans demand novelty. To suppress this basic principle would be overlooking a simple observation of human behavior. Our sex lives shouldn’t be as limited as we think they should be.
From An Economic Perspective:
Think about it this way: when we hit a fiscal rough patch, the government will try and reinvigorate the economy with a stimulus package. I believe the same concept applies to humans. When my boyfriend and I hit a rough patch of boredom in our relationship, the threesome operated like a stimulus package to enhance our understanding.
1 Girl 2 Guys:
One of the top fantasies women have is being worshipped and adored by two devilishly gorgeous men. These men are often heterosexual and, therefore, only interested in the woman — which means there’s a whole lot of action for her. Her sex fantasy might be as innocent as being penetrated by one man while performing oral sex on the other or it might go further. This sex fantasy is considered a taboo for many women, which makes it all the more fun to imagine.
2 Girls 1 Guy:
I believe that a 2 female to 1 male threesome, if (s)executed properly, can strengthen the level of understanding between a couple. Threesomes are meant for those who are open-minded and have high sex esteem- which translates to high self-esteem in bed. Girls who get jealous easily are never ideal candidates for threesomes.
Conclusion:
Threesomes can be fun if…
- You and your significant other are equally open-minded about sex.
- You’re engaging in a threesome not because you lost interest in your partner but simply want to spice things up.
- You won’t get greedy. Because greed will lapse into lechery.
Warnings:
Threesomes are not meant for every romantic pair. Consult your significant other before inviting a third participant. Couples with trust issues should know that a threesome is a short-term solution to a long-term problem. A solid loving relationship comes from empathy, not sex.
Side effects from threesomes include:
- Possibly being ignored during foreplay
- Embarrassingly ejaculating too soon
- Emotional discomfort for whatever reasons
The trickiest threesome is often the 2 female and 1 male ratio. If you’re a gentleman trying to initiate a threesome with your lady and another girl, just make sure:
Your girlfriend won’t go bat shit crazy (as displayed below)
If your girlfriend has these tendencies, definitely don’t consider threesomes. It may NOT right for you. =)
Ways to Convince a Girl That Threesomes Are Ok:
- Tap into her inner bisexuality. You can start by slowly integrating threesomes into her sub-conscious. Put on movies featuring a steamy threesome like Vicky Cristina Barcelona. The more exposure threesomes get, the more it’ll be considered a norm
- Assure her she’s very sexy when making out with another girl and you’re ok with just watching. The less self-centered you are, the more your girlfriend will actually want to include you.
- For 2 guy threesomes — Tell her your biggest fantasy is pleasuring her with another man. Girls may not want to be in bed with 2 guys, but they’ve thought about it. Anyways, tell her you want HER to be sexually satisfied, and she will reciprocate. Most girls will be flattered you put her first, and she will consider finding another girl for you too.
Some extra tips for getting a threesome
- The best way to have a threesome is to already have a girl you’re dating regularly. That way you already have 2/3rds of the threesome ready.
- Date a bisexual girl and ask her to pickup a girl for your threesome. This is a lot easier than trying to get 2 girls to have a threesome with you. A very open-minded girlfriend is required for this, and one who wants to have a lot of sexual fun.
- Bring your girl out with a lot of other beautiful women. Then get her drunk. Then amp up the party vibe and get her making out with another girl.
Written by Emily Tangerine