Ah, the dreaded friendzone.

“I like you, but not in that way.”

“I don’t think we should risk our friendship.”

Ouch. The friendzone is a deep abyss. And there’s seemingly no light at the end of the tunnel. Yet some guys get banished to the friendzone time and time again. You can read more about why that happens here, but in this column, we’ll discuss two ways to escape the friendzone.

ARE YOU IN THE FRIENDZONE?

First and foremost, you need to determine whether or not you’re in the friendzone to begin with.

Did you make your intentions clear when you first met her? If you didn’t, and you haven’t made a move by now, there’s a solid chance she’s written you off as a lover. If that’s seems like a possible scenario, here are the obvious signs that you’re in the friendzone:

• She constantly reminds you what an amazing friend you are
• She has no problem confiding in you about her guy problems
• She tells you that you’re like a brother to her
• She says to you, “I wish every guy was like you!”

Of course, there are other signs. But if you’re fairly certain in the friendzone, then it’s worth your effort to try out these tactics.

TACTIC #1: Pretend that she’s “growing” on you

If you failed to make a move early on, then she either thinks 1) you weren’t interested in her or 2) you were interested in her, but you chickened out. Unfortunately, neither of those scenarios bode well for you.

That means you need to plant the possibility of a third scenario, in which you make it seem like she’s “growing” on you, and that she’s just now winning you over. You can use phrases like, “You know, Amy, you’re becoming more and more interesting by the day” or “Wow, Megan, I’ve never thought of this before, but when you make an effort to put yourself together, you’re pretty sexy.”

This tactic is a reasonable excuse for why you failed to make a move earlier. It may cause her to think, “Whoa, is he just now interested in me? I wonder what I did. Am I interested in him?” This tactic can rekindle any initial attraction that wore off. You MUST keep the frame of mind that you’ve just started to be attracted to her, so make sure your behavior is congruent. For example, if there was zero physical touch, then start initiating light physical touch.

Remember, don’t revert to your old habits of treating her like a friend. You’ll have to make a move this time or else it will be impossible to re-rekindle the attraction.

TACTIC #2: Cut off contact and move on

Moving on can be the most powerful thing you can do. If she hasn’t heard from you in weeks, she’ll wonder what you’ve been up to. That’s a good thing. Maybe she misses your company and starts to rationalize those feelings as liking you as more than just a friend. Also a good thing.

Through all of this, meet other girls. Don’t count on her to reinitiate contact. If she sees you with other girls, perhaps she’ll become jealous, and realize she took for granted what was in front of her. It’s a win-win situation. If she does become jealous, maybe she reinitiates contact with you. Or maybe through meeting new girls, you meet an awesome girl.

We’ve all been put in the friendzone, and it’s not a good place to be. Remember, the best way to get out of the friendzone is to avoid it altogether, but if you find yourself trapped inside, these two tactics might flip the switch. Try them out, and let me know your results.

BONUS!

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Enjoy guys! I hope my article helped. If you have any questions, please contact me: [email protected]

Written by Will Legend