I have a friend named Will who’s always had trouble with the ladies. Growing up he always had a lot of questions, but no answers. I can relate. Both of us grew up in very traditional Chinese families where dating wasn’t a top priority.

Talking with his friends, he realized that a lot of them also had very little knowledge about women. He decided to create a website where he interviewed dozens of women on different controversial dating topics.

But his site is very controversial. The questions are… juicy. He gets into the nitty gritty details about sex and seduction that most women would never reveal. Topics like “Why did you decide to have a one night stand with a guy?” or “How did this guy successfully seduce you into sleeping with him on the first date?“

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I got a chance to view his website, DecodeHer, and I decided to help him with the project. It’s an ingenious idea that I think will help a lot of men.

I interviewed Will about his new website and what guys can learn by joining.

Tell us more about DecodeHer and what your site is all about.

DecodeHer is a website where we interviewed dozens of women on different dating topics. Instead of asking for advice, we asked for stories, and we got pretty detailed and uncensored.

We asked about the last guy she had a one-night-stand with and what compelled her to have sex with him within only a few hours. We found out why she put a certain guy in the friendzone and why she made another guy into her fuckbuddy. We asked why she decided to have sex on the first date with one guy, and why she made another guy wait several dates.

All the interviews are done on video, and we release new videos every week on a different topic. Here’s a free video we want to share about the “friendzone” that I think a lot of your viewers will like.

We then help men learn from these stories by picking out relevant recurring themes from the stories. We teach men the dos and don’ts from these girls’ stories.

Why do you think you had so many questions about girls?

Girls weren’t a huge priority when I was younger. When guys were dating in High School I was more focused on studies. I just thought that dating was just another process that I would eventually go through.

I was unhappy though, later in life, that I wasn’t able to date the types of girls I wanted to date so I sought to get more targeted advice and found that most of the good advice out there is from a man’s point of view. Women generally gave really bad advice because they don’t know how to teach men about dating.

If women can’t teach men about dating, why would your site be about learning from women?

Absolutely. Women give horrible “advice,” but we didn’t ask for advice. That’s the big difference with our site. I recognized that women weren’t going to be able to give good answers. So instead I asked for stories about the guys that they’ve slept with or dated, and then found common denominators in these stories.

Girls obviously don’t want to admit that they’ve slept with the “player” or that they fall for the guy who’s a “douchebag,” but unfortunately, this happens a lot. When asking for the stories, the truth comes out.

The reason why these stories are helpful is because we’re able to show men that some of the advice they’ve been given by women are very contradictory to what’s happening in the real world. For example, some guys are told to be a gentlemen and don’t go for sex on the first date, but surprisingly many women actually want to have sex on the first date.

What has the reception been like so far?

So like we expected, there’s a lot of people on opposite ends of the spectrum on DecodeHer. Some guys love it and think the product we put out is great. On the other hand, there are also people who are bashing it and think they can’t learn anything from this content. That’s fine for us because we understand that our product is not for everybody.

It seems like some of the questions are pretty controversial. How have you been getting the girls to be candid and answer truthfully?

Yes, definitely. A lot of the questions we ask could make any girl uncomfortable. Luckily, with the anonymity of the Internet (we don’t reveal girls’ names), most of them are willing to tell the truth for the sake of helping other guys. We do pay each girl to be filmed, so that is an incentive for them to participate in our study. We also do a pre-interview where we ask the girls a few questions to see how willing they are to reveal certain aspects about themselves and we pick candidates that we think would have good stories and be truthful about their experiences.

Has there been any interesting conclusions about female dating from working on DecodeHer?

Every girl who talked about good first dates mentioned being “chivalrous” and also added that most guys these days are usually not chivalrous. From talking to dozens of women it seems that guys are really dropping the ball in the dating arena and girls’ expectations are lower than ever. So when a guy does do these more “traditional” things like opening a door or picking the girl up for the date, it’s almost shocking. Most girls had some really bad experiences – like extremely horrifying experiences. One girl had a guy glorify the “Dark Knight” theatre massacre on their date.

What are 3 dating tip you can give to guys right now?

Number one is you gotta figure out how to stand out from the crowd. This sounds like common knowledge, but most guys are really really cookie-cutter. Girls go on tons of dates these days and it’s common for them to be dating 3-4 guys at a time. The guy that stands out as a person is always the guy she chooses.

Number two is to learn how to connect with the girl by figuring out commonalities. This isn’t always possible with every girl because unfortunately you’re not going to have something in common with everyone. Figure out what she likes, what are her hobbies, where she’s traveled, and then try to relate to them. The guys who are most successful have tons of experiences so he can relate with almost anybody, so an aside tip would be to do as many fun and interesting things as possible.

Number three is not wait too long to make a move. This is the #1 way that guys make it to the friendzone (link to blog post). If you wait too long to make a move, girls will think you either don’t have the balls to make a move or they’ll just lose interest in you and characterize you as just a friend.

Thanks a lot Will, I hope you have some great luck with your new project.

Make sure to check out DecodeHer.

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Written by kevinhype