RE: 5 Reasons Asian Girls Like White Guys

So I’ve finally gotten an e-mail about my article, “5 Reasons Asian Girls Like White Guys.” Being that it’s my first personal blog response with quite a few views, I thought that I’d respond to it. Apparently someone out there disagrees with my opinions, but I also have to disagree with him. So let’s first paste his response to my article.

Hi Rochelle, I’m not sure if your a real person or even asian it’s hard to tell, you could be a white guy or some asiaphile with an asian fetish for all I know but lets say you are for now. First of all I have nothing against non asian couples some are very genuine but many of them are just trend followers. But from what you said it falls into the very wrong and represents a typical social illnesses in mainstream society. Either way, regardless of whatever you are the following things I might point out to you on things you have blinded by. This is not a hate email. For the sake of your own health and wellbeing, fair treatment, accuracy and in line with my cause to fight against racial stereotyping, racism etc (even against those such as yourself who encourage it through gendered racism) 5 Reasons Asian Girls Like White Guys should be corrected to ‘5 racist attitudes I have adopted from white mainstream society’. Firstly I have no idea why you wrote this post other that you express your ideas as something you thought was new but infact isn’t. You are entitled to your opinion but your case is not unique but infact something that is wrong with our society. I would give you the benefit of the doubt that you want to help white men marginalize asians or set a bad a example to all other asian females to judge asian men through superficial standards and racism. let’s go through your points here. 5) Social Prowess [White men are more socially in-tuned] White, black, purple whatever color, it is irrelevant as everyone type of people can be in tuned or out of tuned. First sentence is already stereotyping, you just stated that all the asians in the world are all the same in the sense that they do not know how to socialize. Just think a little harder on that, if they don’t socialize then how do they have so many friends? if your talking socializing in a white dominated environment then in that case the social environment is likely to be unjust ejecting out any ethnic person from that circle. White men prowess is what you have mistaken sounds like arrogance and treating others like crap, if you like this characteristic then I would suspect that it mirrors our own personality? White guys don’t make you look better, it actually looks forced or unnatural, it’s only your own view of yourself but not everyone thinks that, some of us just already know your cases as similar to many asian women who follow the mainstream society where many pairings are influenced by mass manufacturing and selling asian women with sexual values only. Asian woman does not share this same white prowess that you sepak about, it just shows you are his stereotype, the exotic asian hooker whore, sex object, that boosts his prowess not yours if anything in this case you’re actually devaluing yourself as this commodity to his prowess. You should know all this being Vietnamese, there where many American GI’s going to whorehouses during the war for their $2 sex and also bringing home their war brides as trophies. You might think it’s new to them, they probably think they can still pull it off. I Very wrong and misinformed and likely to be a cultural misunderstanding or you have never met enough asian men in your life. 4) Balls Yes it is true, it takes 3-4 white guys to equal with one asian man. In the end it’s about who comes to prove their words through good character not their color nor sells themselves better. 3) Unique [Sometimes a girl just wants something different]. This is because you fail to realize your own self worth, esteem and you cannot find enough uniqueness in yourself and while you live in a western society the values are put on you have to a white guy,  it’s probably worth more then what you have for yourself? I’m sorry in this case the value is still the stereotypes of the asian exotic sex commodity to white guys that help him boost his ego, again that is still not yours. I don’t make this up, thats the way society is structured and that what you so called fellow asians are fighting for so you can be more free to go other direction that getting pushed towards the men. [It felt refreshing to hang out with a few girls and guys of different races]. This is purely racists, your not treating people with the respect of being an individual rather you like to use race to label everyone into 1 type. How would you like it to be done to you by white men who love screwing asian women and then dump? maybe you might be fine with that but other asian women who see better of themselves would like to be respected more than the same type of attitude you are encouraging in our modern day society. 2) They pull the trigger This one is stupid I won’t bother explaining this other than white fetish? media brainwash? 1) Western concept of beauty Yes you have at some some clue in this, it is true you are brainwashed by white beauty standards, a social illness that has hurt so many women. And of course there are plenty of asian men are also big, muscle, tall, athletic PLENTY! you have been deprived. I could however understand that a women had a very limited choice of asian men around them and white men was the only other option. of course most would not admit it. You just haven’t seen them. You run an asian site right? that is your assignment to find those images to prove yourself. tip: don’t go to mainstream websites, go to asian celebrity websites, there are also some good asian american women magazines and websites who don’t have as much problems with locating super hot asian men that would be “new” to you. I’m not sure how long you have been blogging or how long it’s been since you posted this but I would hope you have actually learned something since that time and could easily go back to change these things to something less stereotypical. Lastly you gave 5 reasons what are your own not anyone elses and it misrepresents asian people. I wrote this because I care, I was considering of just ignoring you and move along but then I realize that’s what most people would do.

So that was a long ass reply!

But anyways let’s dissect his letter and I’ll give my responses to each section to make it easier for me. I’m only going to touch on his key points because his letter is so damn long.

I’m not sure if your a real person or even asian it’s hard to tell, you could be a white guy or some asiaphile with an asian fetish for all I know but let’s say you are for now.

Haha really smart and classy. I AM an Asian girl and I’ve dated BOTH Asian and Caucasian guys before.

First sentence is already stereotyping, you just stated that all the asians
in the world are all the same in the sense that they do not know how to
socialize. Just think a little harder on that, if they don’t socialize then
how do they have so many friends? If you’re talking socializing in a white
dominated environment then in that case the social environment is likely to
be unjust ejecting out any ethnic person from that circle.

First of all, yes I am talking about socializing in a white dominated environment. If you haven’t noticed, MOST places in the United States are white dominated. Also I even mentioned in that area that I was speaking from a United States standpoint. Another thing is that I didn’t say anything about all the Asians in the world are the same. Just when I compare Asian guys to white guys, I’ve found that the white guys are more adept at socializing and this has held true for most of my experiences.

White men prowess is what you have mistaken sounds like arrogance and treating others like crap, if you like this characteristic then I would suspect that it mirrors your own personality?

I don’t know where “treating others like crap” came from. If you’re making stereotypes about white guys then you’re being a hypocrite.

White guys don’t make you look better, it actually looks forced or
unnatural, it’s only your own view of yourself but not everyone thinks
that, some of us just already know your cases as similar to many asian
women who follow the mainstream society where many pairings are influenced
by mass manufacturing and selling asian women with sexual values only.

This little area of your rant has some merit. The part where you said it’s only my own view. Too bad I already mentioned that these are my own personal opinion in my disclaimer. What you said about looking forced and unnatural (about Asian female and white male couplings) is YOUR OWN OPINION, and I disagree with your statement. Asian female and white male couples are so common occurrence these days that it’s pretty much a non-issue. The only people that seem to keep making it an issue are ASIAN GUYS. I’ve been asked by my Asian guy friends about why I’ve recently had a string of white boyfriends, and the reason isn’t really because they’re white, but because they have traits that I like. These are the traits that I outlined in my article. As for the sexual values part, I don’t like it very much either. Asian women are probably even less sexual than white women. Blame it on the pornography for that one.

Asian woman does not share this same white prowess that you speak about, it
just shows you are his stereotype, the exotic asian hooker whore, sex
object, that boosts his prowess not yours if anything in this case you’re
actually devaluing yourself as this commodity to his prowess.

You should know all this being Vietnamese, there where many American GI’s
going to whorehouses during the war for their $2 sex and also bringing home
their war brides as trophies.

If anything, you’re the one mentioning the negative stereotypes in this one. Regardless of whether you believe that Asian girls like white guys, its undeniable that the United States has plenty of these interracial couplings and if you think that each of these Asian girls is just playing the part of a hooker whore as you say, then it is YOU who is doing the negative stereotyping.

“[You say] I’ve found that there are more white guys out there that are more
confident.” Very wrong and misinformed and likely to be a cultural misunderstanding or
you have never met enough asian men in your life.

First of all, my sentence says “I’ve found,” so please don’t say that I’m very misinformed about myself. Since you are not me you cannot tell me that I’m misinformed. And I’ve met plenty of Asian men in my life, I’ve dated Asian men, I have Asian brothers and cousins and an Asian father.

“It felt refreshing to hang out with a few girls and guys of different
races.” This is purely racists, you’re not treating people with the respect
of being an individual rather you like to use race to label everyone into 1
type.

Again, you have almost no merit in this argument. How is it racist to experience different cultures? In fact I’m sure many people would agree with me that spending time with different cultures is actually the opposite of racist. If you only like spending time with one race, then YOU’RE the racist one. And you say I’m labeling everyone into one type? Please oh please where the hell are you getting all this from?

Yes you have at some some clue in this, it is true you are brainwashed by
white beauty standards, a social illness that has hurt so many women.
And of course there are plenty of asian men are also big, muscle, tall,
athletic PLENTY! you have been deprived.

Oh please, this one is a no brainer. Even the leading men in Asian cinema can’t compare to the leading men of Hollywood. Where in an Asian film can you find the charismatic and dominant equivalent of Brad Pitt in Fight Club? Can Jackie Chan or Jet Li compare? Or better yet, those ladyboys that have feminized themselves that seem to plague Korean media? I do agree that there are Asian men who are big, muscular, tall, athletic, etc, but it’s easy to say that there’s more white guys who have those attributes. White culture is totally obsessed with being alpha men. Football players, wrestling, bodybuilding, etc. Do you really want to argue that there are more Asian men than white men that possess those characteristics? And you say I’ve been deprived?

tip: don’t go to mainstream websites, go to asian celebrity websites, there
are also some good asian american women magazines and websites who don’t
have as much problems with locating super hot asian men that would be “new”
to you.

Thanks for the tip buddy! Too bad I work for an Asian celebrity site. I know all about the hot Asian men, believe me. Also there’s no point in finding super hot Asian men if they have no balls, can’t pull the trigger, and let an equally hot white man sweep me off my feet before they can. If you’ll notice, only one out of the five things that I mentioned has anything to do with “hotness” at all. In fact, if you ask most women, a guys looks only has a small percentage to do with how we perceive his desirability.

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