If you’re hitting the club in search for some love tonight, this article will help you out.
In the past couple of weeks we’ve had articles talking about how to meet more women, how to talk to club girls, and how to improve yourself in endless ways. You’ve read them all, you’ve joined a gym, you got your hair cut, and now you’re ready to take on the world, one lucky lady at a time.
But you’re just not sure you’re ready for a girlfriend yet. What do you do? Having a girlfriend is nice, but sometimes a man just needs no strings attached fun. Sometimes a man just needs to get laid. You have needs and you want them satisfied… TONIGHT.
Welcome to the wonderful world of one night stands, where stunningly beautiful women are willing to sleep with you, go home in the morning, and never bother you again. No crazy girlfriends stalking the women on your Facebook page. No need for emotional investment. Just good old-fashioned fun. Sounds fantastic, right?
Contrary to popular belief, having a one night stand is easy, and with a little bit of know-how and these seven rules, you’ll be on the fast track to sexual success in no time.
1) Know where to look.
We don’t mean look there…
First thing’s first, you have to realize that you’re not looking for a girlfriend, you’re looking to get laid. Many of my other articles encourage you to talk to every woman you see and approach lots of women regardless of where you are, but for a one night stand that’s not going to work out as well. You need to narrow your scope. A girl you approach in Starbucks is probably going to expect you to take her out on a date, and while you might still get laid at the end of the night, it’s a lot more time and effort than a one-night stand. If you’re looking for immediate results and no strings attached, your best bet is to check out high-energy and super fun bars and clubs. These places are packed with women who are there to cut loose and have fun, and the energetic atmosphere helps to lower barriers between people. The alcohol is flowing, everyone’s inhibitions are down, and for all you know she’s there looking to get laid just like you are.
2) Pick the right target.
If you want a girl that is down for a threesome, look for this sign.
There are three primary types of women who are ideal targets for one night stands: scantily clad women, cougars, and women who are kicking it solo. A girl who goes to the club looking sweet and wholesome… is probably sweet and wholesome. It’s entirely possible to bring her home for a one night stand, but it takes a lot of effort and skill, which really isn’t worth it. Scantily clad women are an obvious target: they’re already sending off a sexual vibe. Cougars (or women over 40) are most likely stable, gainfully employed, and self-confident. They have reached a stage in their life where they feel comfortable in their own skin and sexuality, and they embrace their sexual needs. Women who are kicking it solo probably came to the club with their friends, but they’re now bored and will appreciate an entertaining conversation.
3) Make her feel at ease.
Pulling her hair and making it your beard isn’t the right way.
If I’ve said it once I’ve said it 1000 times: you could be the most handsome man in the club, but if she doesn’t feel safe with you, she’s not going to sleep with you. Even women who are looking to get laid won’t appreciate it if you walk up to them and tell them you want to bend them over the kitchen table. They want to be chased. They want to feel like you’re interested in who they are and what they have to say. So get the conversation started. Get them talking about themselves. Not every guy is keen on the thought of an extended conversation with a girl he has no plans of ever seeing again, but every woman likes to believe that a man cares what she has to say. Non-sexual conversation breaks down barriers, lessens negative assumptions, and builds positive interaction between two people. By being able to spend time with you that’s NOT sexual, she will feel that it is safe to be around you.
4) Seed the conversation with sexual undertones.
Stop staring at her boobs you pervert.
You can approach the hottest girl in the club and have an incredible conversation that lasts all night, but if you NEVER develop a sexual atmosphere, all you’ve done is successfully made a really good friend. While it’s true that you don’t want to just walk up to a girl and say ”let’s fuck”, at some point the atmosphere has to turn sexual or she will never even know you’re interested. Once you’ve got her good and comfortable, start slow by touching her on the arm or shoulder. If she doesn’t pull away, she’s accepting your advances. Put your arm around her. Touch her on her thigh. Pull her in for a kiss. The key here is to make her physically comfortable with you, but you’ll also want to plant those erotic thoughts in her mind by steering the conversation toward topics with sexual innuendo or, if things are going REALLY well with her, stories about sexual adventures. By doing these things you are not only letting her know that you’re thinking about sex, but you’re also making her think about sex.
5) Make your exit.
Don’t be as plastered as this guy or you won’t be able to get it up.
What do you do when you’ve found an insanely hot girl, had an incredible conversation, been making out for half an hour, and now she’s DTF? This is where a lot of guys start to crash and burn. A girl might be perfectly willing to sleep with you, but she’s definitely not going to do it in the middle of a crowded club, and the majority of women are not going to be the first to suggest that you head someplace else. That’s your job. Having a hotel room nearby that you can escape to is nice, but for some girls this isn’t comfortable or familiar enough, because only dirty girls sleep with strangers and she’s a classy lady, thank you very much. You need to give a woman an excuse to leave with you so that she doesn’t feel dirty for doing it. Tell her that it’s getting loud in the club and you want to continue the conversation somewhere more quiet. Say she HAS to show you that awesome thing at her house that she told you about. Tell her you’re hungry and want to keep discussing her volunteer trip in Borneo over pancakes at the IHOP down the street. She knows you mean that you want to go somewhere else and have sex, but at least this way the exit is framed in a more neutral, friendly manner and she will feel fewer reservations about leaving with you.
6) The work doesn’t stop once she’s at your place.
Never, never, NEVER assume that just because a woman’s back at your place, you’re getting laid. Until you’re actually inside of her, she has every opportunity to tell you no, and if you start giving off creepy or even unconfident vibes, she will exploit those opportunities. You got her comfortable enough and sexually charged enough to come home with you, but you have to keep the comfort and sexual energy high. Don’t rip off her panties in the doorway (unless she was fondling you in the car, then by all means). Instead, invite her to take off her shoes, relax, and have a glass of wine on the couch (comfort). Continue your conversation (comfort) with your arm around her (sexual energy). Pull her into your lap and start kissing her (sexual energy). Continue climbing the ladder of sexual energy by kissing her on her neck, peeling her clothes off, carrying her back to the bedroom, whatever it is that she will allow you to do. But you can’t hesitate (you’ll look weak) and you can’t keep doing things that make her uncomfortable. Follow her cues. If she doesn’t pull away or hesitate when you do something, she’s accepting it and you can take your sexual energy one level higher. If she does hesitate, she’s still not comfortable.
7) Profit.
If you successfully kept the balance between building sexual energy and keeping things at her comfort level, then congratulations. Pat yourself on the back. If you didn’t, it’s okay. Try to figure out where you went wrong. Did you keep pushing when she was pulling away? Did you fail to take off her shirt when she was rubbing you through your jeans? Learn from your mistakes, pick yourself back up, and try again next Saturday.
Written by Cindy Young