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A relationship is tough work. Sometimes it can take quite a toll on your health. This article is meant to teach my principles on pleasing your partner for a better relationship. In this article I am focusing on how to please your partner physically, but in another article I will be talking more about emotion. Please stay tuned to part two of this article coming in another week or so, and I plan to make this a four part series of articles.

First let me reintroduce myself so you kind of know where I am coming from as a relationship and dating coach. My name is Steven Lin and I’m a New York based seduction and dating coach, but I was raised in Austin, TX. I started off as a seduction coach, teaching guys, primarily Asian guys, how to run game on women. During this time I also was wildly experimenting in my sex and personal life, having multiple fuck buddies, one night stands, and other wild experiences. I was young back then and since I had this skill to be able to seduce many women, I used it to my advantage. I also am the author of the successful seduction book, Advanced Asian, a dating mastery guide for Asian men.

Nowadays, I’m a bit older, and I’ve started to settle down more to focus on other aspects of my career. I primarily have long-term monogamous relationships. Because of this, my focus has been on the research of relationship happiness and success. Due to this I decided to write a little bit about my findings.

So we’re talking about the physical aspects of how you can please your partner and this means sexually. Hopefully this article will teach both men and women a little bit about pleasing their partner physically.

Arguably one of the most important aspects of a relationship is sex. Especially for younger couples. But sex can create a lot of problems if one or more partners doesn’t know what they are doing.

This part 1 will focus on the male aspect of the sexual relationship because it is just so vastly different between men and women. Part 2 will focus on the female side and my findings about females and sex.

Figure Out What you Are Doing

Knowing WHAT to do is incredibly important. The more capable and better you are in bed, the more your significant other is going to want to have sex with you. The more sex you have, the better your relationship.

When I first started having sex as a young lad, I realized I had a bunch of the typical problems that anyone would have. Sometimes I couldn’t get it up, other times I came too quickly, other times I just didn’t have the right techniques. So I turned to the web to find information, and pretty much found a bunch of shit information. Eventually I ended up being “decent” although it probably still wasn’t amazing.

It wasn’t until I bought the program for 2 Girls Teach Sex that I really found a program that really taught me how to please my woman in bed. For men, this is really the best program you can get for learning how to turn on a woman in bed. It is taught by bisexual women, most of them adult entertainment stars. Bisexual women have a seriously unfair advantage when it comes to pleasing women, so it’s smart to learn from them. In this article I’m going to give you an outline of what I got from the program. You should definitely buy the program or check it out at least for more in-depth help and specific tips.

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Convey your Masculinity

Women want to be lead in bed. They want you to be the aggressor. Because of this, it is very important to be very dominant in bed. How to do this? Start by leading the interaction. In bed, tell her what you want from her instead of asking.

So instead of “Can we do doggy-style?”
Say, “Turn around so I can fuck you from behind.” (Or for girls who don’t like the word “fuck,” say “make love.”)

Be the one to take action. Let her react to you instead of the other way around. Have sex in the positions that YOU want, and lead her into them.

Having sex in a variety of ways

Vary it up! Missionary every night will be boring. I recommend you trying a few different positions every single night. Obviously you’ll want to have doggy in your arsenal because this is one of the prime positions to give your woman orgasms.

But besides having variety in the amount of positions you try, you also need to vary where and when you have sex also. This will make the sex feel fresh and engaging. For example, while your girl is in the kitchen you can start stimulating her and then one thing leads to another and soon enough you’re having sex in the kitchen. Also if you have sex primarily at night, try initiating sex in the morning.

Give her an emotional experience

For women, sex is a deeply emotional experience. But it’s not easy, especially if you’re a novice in bed.

When you first begin having sex it’s an emotional rush because the girl is new, you’re sticking your dick into something fresh, and you feel adrenaline coarsing through your body. But after the tenth, twentieth, hundredth time, it begins to feel less emotional because your body has become used to having sex with the same woman, and its the same for the woman.

This is where our imaginations really comes into play. One of the best ways for me to evoke emotion in my partners has been role playing in bed. That means playing out her deepest fantasies and your deepest fantasies. This doesn’t mean you need to bring out the whips and chains (unless she’s into that), but it does mean taking some risks. Ask her what kind of fantasies she’s had. Tell her that you want to try and replicate it in real life. By allowing her to fantasize you’re giving her a new experience every time.

And I’m not talking about schoolgirl/professor fantasies. They don’t have to be as elaborate (or cliched). So this is what I mean. Give her the fantasy that you guys are having sex for the first time. You can say something like, “Oh my god, your body feels so amazing, your pussy is so tight. You feel so good in bed.” This sort of implies that you haven’t ever felt her before and that the experience is new.

Or you can give her a romance fantasy like, “You are so beautiful. I love you so much.” Talk to her softly and give her kisses while you make love slowly and sensually. But of course, reserve this for long-term relationships because you are going to freak out your one night stand.

Alternatively, you can treat her harshly, promoting a dominance fantasy. “Let me fuck your brains out. Be my slut tonight.” Talk to her a little bit condescendingly. This doesn’t work for every girl, but you’ll be surprised how well it works. This is also a great line for girls that you perceive to have a bit of a wild side.

And as I mentioned in the section with variety, you also need to vary up the fantasy. One night be her sensuous lover, the next night be her wild crazy boy.

In conclusion

What I covered in this article isn’t the end, but the beginning of your road to sexual mastery. There is way too much content to cover about pleasing a woman physically to be able to nail everything in one article, but I hope this helped you a lot. If you’re REALLY interested in becoming a master in the bedroom, then 2 Girls Teach Sex is the program that will help you get there. You heard it first from me.

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Also stay tuned to part 2, where I reveal what WOMEN can do to please their man, taken from research I’ve done.

Written by Steven Lin